Hi,
My name
is Edwin and I am from south India. I
would like to share with you on the values of being good parents. A good parent
means a lot for a child. A parent can be classified into the following categories
·
Parent
·
Mentor
·
Friend
·
Teacher
·
Spiritual
Leader
Lets go
a little deeper into each of the categories:
·
Parent : A good Father and a good mother means a lot
to a kid. Good means being really nice
to our kids. We need to respect the feelings of our kids. Words of appreciation
will boost the morale of the kid. We need to understand the likes/ dislikes of
a child. Rather than loading a child with our wishes and aspirations, allow the
child to express their ability, their plus and minus and their aims and goal.
Being warm to your kid makes him/her put
more trust and confidence in you. Make the child feel that you are always there
for him/her. Correct them when they
wrong that too in a positive manner. Make them realize how , when and where
they erred. Once they understand the HWW’s, the chances of making mistakes in
future will be less. Make the kid feel
that you and only you are the most adorable person in their life.
·
Mentor : A parent should always be a mentor. Instruct
them to do good acts. Make them learn the family values. Correct them when they
do wrong things. Teach them the consequences. Try to make their life more
meaningful. Help them when they trod on life’s rough seas. Give your utmost
attention to their needs when they really need them. Shape them into being good
citizens.
·
Friend : “A
friend in need is a friend indeed”, the saying goes. It is true in case being
good parents. A parent is indeed a good friend of their kid. In times of
difficulty, make them rely on you for their support. Share their thoughts. Be
jovial, caring, sharing and above all be courteous to them. Make them confide
in you. Know their mood fluctuations. Try to be in their shoes and see things
in their perspective. Share your expectations with them. Tell them frankly what
you expect of them as being good kids. When your kids are tensed, allow them to
blow out. Don’t stop them. If they wish to cry, just make them do it. One their
steam is out, they’ll feel comforted.
·
Teacher : In
schools and colleges, they say,” GIVE US YOUR KIDS AND WE’LL GIVE BACK TO YOU A
LEADER”. It is rightly said. The teachers are the architects who shape the
future of a kid. At home, the parents are those teachers. They not only teach
their kids life’s fundamentals but also guide them to achieve their destiny. Chastise
them when they don’t follow the track. Educate them on the values of being good
citizens . plant in them the seedling of helping others in time of emergency. Make
them say to the world when help is needed, they are ready to do their duties. Teach
them the values of being empathetic and sympathetic.
·
Spiritual Leader : Of all the roles of a parent, being a spiritual leader to your kids
is of very high importance. Teach them and guide them to have faith in G-D. Teach
them to pray and have good relationship with G-D. Trusting people in times of
tempest is good but trusting in the creator is more valuable than that. Make them
understand that there is one power that rules all the action and thoughts of
the mind. A G-D centered person is never a loser but always a winner. Help your
kids feel this in their life.
This was a small note from my side. I too am a
father of three kids. There are certain things that I am following and there
are many a things that I am constantly trying to follow. Hope you like this article
of mine. Thanks.
